Setting out on a new path?
Need a road map? Then these three questions may help you along the way.
Who are you? The simple things in life can help you work this out. Oddly, many of us need time to identify the simplest things like favourite colour, music, food. It’s no wonder when we’re bombarded with a myriad of choices. However, focusing on a few key likes and dislikes can sometimes anchor us, when we need stability e.g. I don’t know what I want to study BUT I do know I like ………. Sounds simplistic but making big decisions can be incredibly hard at times. When we start with the small ones, we build confidence in making the right decision for the biggies. Then saying “I got that right,” goes a long way to supporting ourselves and building confidence in planning for the future.
Where are you going? We’re all going somewhere but not always in the direction that we’d like to go. There are so many perspectives currently circulating through social media about finding personal fulfillment, the dream job, the right partner. Experience tells me that it’s important just to keep going. Find out who are are and don’t give up. There is no magic formula but small incremental steps mean progress. Find one thing to achieve today, no matter how small. Write it in your diary and do it. Then write down one thing you can do tomorrow.
What do you want to be? So many choices? No matter whether you’re 16, 46 or 66, this question is one that we are bound to confront cyclically. Because as humans we are meant to evolve and change. Actually, some may never be satisfied with a finite answer on this one. I’ve said before and I’ll say again – it’s okay not to know what you want to be. It’s better to work out what you’d like to do which will in turn may lead you to ‘being’ something. Isn’t more important to know what sort of person you want to be and what sort of life you’d like to live?